There is something in the air in the blogging world. At least judging by the bloggers I read. It seems a few of us are getting disillusioned, downhearted and de-motivated regarding our blogs, including me. Although it’s not a nice feeling, I feel better when others mention they are feeling the same.
It reinforces for me, that
We are never alone
There is always someone else going through a similar experience.
I only know this because the bloggers said so, instead of pretending things were a-ok. And that’s what inspired this post. I feel more able to share my experiences with blogging, because someone else was brave enough to do it first.
Blogging is a funny thing, y’see. We write for an audience, even if no one reads it. We write to portray our lives, find our voice, share our message with the world, or follow a passion.
It can be incredibly hard work, but it can also be incredibly fulfilling, and that’s why I keep returning to my little space on the internet. Just some days, it’s harder than others.
As I say here I don’t believe in pursuing a beautiful life, because it feels like it’s always going to be one step ahead. I want to create a beautiful life, right here, right now. In creating something as profound as a life that I want to live, I will be on a journey, and there is a difference for me between a pursuit and a journey. The journey is the here, the now, and what happens on a day to day basis. A pursuit implies some sort of chase, and I don’t like the connotations that has.
A great post I read today mentioned that if we were already there (wherever we want to get to), our writing would in all honesty be boring. Mine would perhaps be gushing with beautiful stories and images and how oh-so-amazing everything is. If that was me reading a blog like that, I think I’d feel a little left out, a little like, well I won’t get there, so why bother trying?
Instead, I would want to know how that person got there. How they created that beautiful life. All the ups and downs along the way. The challenges and the triumphs. I would want to see something I could relate to, an experience similar to mine, something that resonated with me.
One little niggling thing of mine is that I feel I can’t write about my journey until I have the direction figured out. Until I know what I’m doing. Only then do I feel comfortable actually doing it. With most things in life though, I’ve learnt how to do things, by doing them. It’s the best way to learn.
So I struggle with this blog, because I haven’t found a clear direction. I’ve figured out the mission statement for this blog, but quite honestly, I’ve little idea how I’m going to create this beautiful life that I believe is possible.
Sure, I have ideas that I’d like to try, learn and do, and see what happens. But I haven’t got a solution yet.
But. In order for this blog to be real, it’s time to drop the perfectionism, and start writing already. I am on a journey, and sometimes it won’t be pretty, and sometimes it will be amazing. Some days it will be hard, others it will be easier. Some days I will be highly strung and a nervous wreck, and other days I may reach the spaced-out calmness of meditation.
My life isn’t perfect. It’s been flippin’ hard at times, and I will continue to be faced with challenges. The ups and downs are what makes it interesting.
My purpose for being here is to share my journey, so others may stumble upon it, find something to relate to, and maybe feel a little less alone.
We are all trying to find our way through life, one experience at a time, and sometimes it helps to know someone has been there before.
The more stories there are, the more chance someone has of finding their way.
Some good posts from elsewhere on the tinterwebs (which inspired this post).
The Jest from Mel at Coal Valley View
Which linked to On blogging over at Knitsofacto
A quote from here:
"Of course lots of the pics posted in blogland give delight to others too, but the point I'm making is that even if they didn't, the posting of them remains important, perhaps even essential, for bloggers themselves. And although I think one of the most important and special aspects of blogging is the possibility of connection with others, there is also a place for blogging that preserves connections with ourselves and the days of our lives that we thread together, like beads on a string; sometimes in deliberate patterns and ordered arrangements; often haphazardly and accidentally and which, whether we like it or not, make up the history of our identity. And part of life's essential survival kit, I think, is remaining interested in that."
and this post from Jen at little birdie.
Reading these made me feel a bit more able to jump on in and get involved. I invite you to come along, share the journey, perhaps find your own way in the process. It’s so much better when there’s other people too.
I love your blog, please keep writing! I have never posted to a blog before, so I guess I am guilty of not showing others how much I enjoy their writing. I am on a similar journey, trying to figure out how to create a happier life (in my case I am battling social anxiety, and am on a mission not to let it beat me), with ups and downs along the way. I am not trying to create the perfect life as I know perfection doesn't exist, and have friends who had the seemingly envious perfect life, and are actually in the same boat as me. Keep writing, keep letting us know what works for you. For me, striving for perfection just keeps reinforcing failure. That said, I haven't written my first blog post yet as I can't quite decide what to say!
ReplyDeleteThere seems to be a thing at the minute where some folk seem aware, really aware that other people are reading their words. It's hard to do something when you know you're being watch and people are in some way relying on your to pop up with your sweet words and wonderful pictures. I think when that happens it must be hard to continue to write for yourself when you know you're not just writing for yourself anymore.
ReplyDeleteIt can lead to self-doubt and wandering from the initial reason for doing this. Whatever that thing was, do that and don't worry about the perception of the reader, if indeed you are!
Linda, I love this post and the way you're viewing the creation of your beautiful life.
ReplyDeleteWhen I first started reading this, I likened it to the pursuit of 'Perfection'. Exactly; what would happen if you were there? Would you reach a point where you come to a stop?
Looking at the 'pursuit' of a beautiful life is also interesting to me... Is it 'a' generic beautiful life or the image belonging to one person's mind?
Someone said something in a YouTube video I was watching a few weeks ago (it was wood-related)... He said that he wasn't interesting in simply watching someone make something; he was interested in learning WHY they came to make this piece. What's the story? Where's the background? Where are the origins and the design and its intention as a finished piece? It's given me a lot to think about.
It's really good to see you writing.
Hi!
ReplyDeleteI just found my way here, because you were listed as a traffic source on my stats page. ;-) Thanks for the link love, and--more importantly--thank you for understanding (and spreading) my message.
We are never alone in our struggles, even when we think we are.
Life is about the journey; the destination is optional. Last summer, sailing, we were happier when we had no destination (although it bugged everyone we talked to). Right now, in life, we don't have our plans worked out, exactly. We know where, but we don't know the details. Sometimes you have to leave it up to chance, to fate.
Whatever you do, enjoy (and share) the getting there. More people need to know that they are not alone.
Hi Amy.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for taking the time to leave a comment.
Thank you for the kind words. I have no intention of stopping but my perfectionist inner critic gets in the way a lot!
Theoretically, I know perfect doesn't exist, and I like it that way, but I have a very hard time putting the inner critic to sleep when it comes to writing. You raise a good point that striving for perfection reinforces failure, because we'll never get to that "ideal" we have in our minds that doesn't really exist.
Thank you so much for the encouragement. :)
Hello again Thrift Deluxe, thanks for reading!
ReplyDeleteI agree, being "watched" changes things a lot, but I like the challenge, even if I find it hard to return here sometimes. It challenges me to let go of my perfectionism, and not be afraid of what people may think of my writing.
I think it's a fear of being vulnerable - showing others what life is really like, and sharing the journey. But, I believe in sharing the true human experience so that others can feel less alone. I felt very alone in the past, and it would have helped knowing that someone had felt or been through the same.
Hi Olly, good to see you here.
ReplyDeleteI don't think perfect exists, but it's hard to convince the inner critic of that, who wants to have everything just so, safe, and secure, before going out in the world.
I'd like to think that I will never stop learning, doing, and finding new ways of bringing beauty into my life. It is constantly evolving!
A beautiful life will be different for everyone (depending on what they believe in, who they are and so on), and also, I have no idea at this moment what exactly it will look like for me. I know some things that I would like to incorporate into it: meditation, simple living, eco-friendly lifestyle, lots of photos, reading, and writing.
I find it interesting that a wood worker would mention the why behind a project, and I think that is brilliant. I listened to a great talk about business, it was a bit too sales focussed for my liking, but the essential message is that people want to know why you do things. I think identifying the why behind something is so important, and has helped me with this blog a lot.
The why behind a project tells a story, and stories bind people together. :)
Hello Bethany!
ReplyDeleteThanks so much for popping over and reading!
You're very welcome, it's a good read!
Yes, I agree, there is always someone who has been through similar things, yet, it's very hard to believe that when things get difficult.
I love that you sail without a destination. How fun! Just set off and go. I can imagine that it bugged people when they asked :)
I find it hard not knowing where I'm going, but I'm learning to let go of needing to know, and enjoying the moment instead. Mindfulness and meditation is helpful for that.
Thanks for the words of encouragement :)
I like how you know some of the things that you would like to incorporate in to your life, instead saying that it 'must' have this and that it 'must' conform to that. It sounds almost like living in the present and allowing the evolution to form naturally. :-)
ReplyDeleteI now remember some things that I was told when I started writing for a magazine a few years ago... Anyone can produce a how-to with step-by-step photographs but the average reader looks for the story within.
I also see it as a way of determining what a person might want from their YouTube channel or blog (two examples)...
Someone looking to gain quick popularity and perhaps even some kind of income would essentially need to include the remedial 'how-tos' and '101' projects and posts. If someone is focused on sharing their own story then that has its own appeal, with the offer of being unique.
Hi Linda,
ReplyDeleteI know i am not the only person here who loves reading your blogs, enjoys your writing style and can relate to your journey; but do you, or did you when you first started ever worry that no one is interested in it? Do you think its worth writing something if no one takes any notice of it? I only ask because these are the barriers i would come across if i were the one writing.
Hi T, thanks for reading!
ReplyDeleteI worry about people not being interested in what I'm writing on a daily basis (if not hourly), and it's something I have to continuously work through. I get strong blog envy, in response those who have managed to build up their blogs in a shorter amount of time, or seem to have their direction figured out, etc. etc.
But then I remember this is my story, and no one could write it for me, I can' t force it to happen. In that way it's unique, if only because it's me writing it.
I would say it's worth writing something even if no one is interested. Writing for an audience challenges me in my writing, as it's a different style to a diary. It will allow me to develop my writing voice (or so I'm told), and it's actually useful in my recovery, because I have to look for things to write about, and often it triggers learning or more awareness of my thought patterns.
Posting on a blog can be very challenging and disheartening, sure. But on the off chance that someone reads it, and relates, responds, or feels less alone - that makes it worth doing.
I'd encourage anyone to have a go. everyone has a unique voice and people will relate to it.
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ReplyDeleteWhen I clicked through from Bethany's site, I honestly thought this was going to be about air quality and something I was doing to hurt it. So I came ready to change my ways!
ReplyDeleteWhat I found was something completely different (and a relief, to be honest, as I already have enough things I'm working on!). I think the fun of life is the journey, but it's also the challenging part. But, I say Game On because what else is there, really? Sitting in front of a TV show munching a bowl of chips is just not for me. I want to live and love my life.
I think you're so right when you say there are many ways to find your way, and from what I read here you are questioning and that is always the best way to live. Questioning everything led to some huge transformations in my life, and I'm never going to stop! Thank you for writing, and have a great one!
Hey Tammy, thanks for coming over!
ReplyDeleteNothing to be scared of here ;)
It's all about the journey. Knowing it all would be really boring. It might provide comfort to know it all, once in a while, but overall, I'd prefer the uncertainty, the challenges that we are faced with, and the new, fun things we find on the way.
Absolutely, I don't want to "kill time", I want to savour the moments and learn everything there is to learn.
Questioning everything has led to big steps forward for me, and I too, will never stop doing that.
Thanks for the comment love! :)
I agree, reading people's personal stories, including all of the challenges and struggles, is very fulfilling. I know it makes me feel less alone.
ReplyDeleteawesome, thanks for coming over :)
ReplyDeleteoff to check out yours and say hello!